Arrive and reconnect
There is time for fellowship while the men arrive. Then we drop in and set the container: how to be present, listen, and respect one another's boundaries.
An online men's circle with Sensei Stan
Brotherhood of the
Armorless Circle
Bring more of yourself.
You don't have to bring a performance.
A challenge. A question. Something worth celebrating. Or a part of yourself you'd like to stop keeping out of sight.
We call the men in this circle Armor Breakers: practicing being known, listening to one another, and carrying something useful back into life. You choose when to soften your armor and when a boundary serves you.
Welcoming new men into the circle.
Online on Zoom · Two-hour gatherings · At least three weekly calls each month, with an integration week. Occasionally we meet four times. See the dates below.
Real men. An actual gathering.
Some days you've got a lot to say.
Some days listening is what you have.
You can have people around you and still keep the real things to yourself. You can understand a pattern and want help practicing another response. Or life can be going pretty well, and you want more connection, honesty, and room to grow.
You don't need a crisis or a polished story. Bring what's happening in your life.
A minute for yourself
What are you carrying
into the Dojo?
What’s weighing on you? What are you longing for? What haven’t you had space to say?
Bring the anger, the uncertainty, the grief, the joy—or simply yourself. You don’t have to tidy it up before you arrive.
There’s room here to speak, to listen, and to be met where you are.
The usual shape of a gathering
A little fellowship.
Some practice. Room for what's real.
We follow what's alive in the room. This is a shared practice, not a fixed curriculum.
Check in with yourself
What are you bringing tonight? What do you notice in your body? Where is your armor showing up? You decide how much to share.
Take a few minutes to practice
A brief embodied practice, such as breathwork or meditation, may help make room to notice what's here. Practices are invitations; you can choose whether to take part.
Make room for your own work
A topic or theme and three optional journaling prompts offer a starting point. Use them if they help, or journal about what's alive in your own work.
Ask for the support you want
Bring your reflection to the sharing circle. You can ask for witnessing, reflection, feedback, or coaching. Advice and coaching begin with consent.
Complete the gathering
The circle completes when the time is up or all the men have shared. Take what was useful into your life and notice what happens next.
You can name the kind of support you want
“I'd like you to hear me first. Then I'd welcome a few questions.”
Or: “I'd like some coaching on what to do with this.” These are examples, not words you have to use.
What protects the trust of the circle
Honesty includes boundaries.
- You choose how much of your story to share.
- Every practice is an invitation, you can take part, adapt it, or pass.
- Ask before advice, interpretation, feedback, challenge, or coaching.
- Respect another man's pace, privacy, and no.
- Carry your own learning forward without repeating another man's story.
Do I need to take off my clothes?
No. Brotherhood gatherings are fully clothed. You choose what to share and which practices to join.
The circle is a support and growth space. It is not a substitute for therapy, medical care, or crisis support. The current participation agreements and media/data consent are discussed before participation.
This testimonial does not imply current Brotherhood membership.
The practice continues in ordinary life
The point is what you do
when the call ends.
Maybe it's asking for help before you're resentful. Saying a no you can stand behind. Making time for something that matters. Or letting another man know something beyond “I'm fine.”
There is also mutual support in WhatsApp between calls: a way to stay connected with the brothers while life keeps happening.
With an integration week, there is room to carry the practice into life. It isn't another task to complete.
The practical details
Online.
With room for real connection.
- Where
- Zoom
- The rhythm
- We meet weekly for three weeks, then take an integration week to put things into practice. There are at least three calls a month, and occasionally four. See the dates alongside.
- Between calls
- Mutual support in WhatsApp and practice in your own life.
- Getting started
- Ask Sensei Stan about a guest pass. You'll have a personal conversation about what you're looking for and whether the circle feels like a good fit.
A gathering lasts two hours. Come with a question, something to share, or simply a willingness to listen.
Gathering dates
Make room in your week.
Two hours to connect, listen, and practice together. All times are Eastern (America/New_York).
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For November gathering dates, ask Sensei Stan.
Past dates show scheduled gatherings.
Welcoming new men · Guest visits
Come meet the Brotherhood.
Answer five short questions, then send me a request for a guest pass. I’ll get in touch so we can talk about the group and find a visit that feels right.
Share only what you’re comfortable sharing about your own experience. Keep confidential information and other people’s private stories to yourself.
Question 1 of 5
Your guest-pass request.
A Guest Pass is an invitation to experience one session facilitated by me, Sensei Stan. Send your request, and I’ll follow up personally.